ok. so i absolutely hate relationships. especially when ALL of my friends are in one.
i'v been best friends with my friend (who will be furred to as kitty) Kitty for 9 years. and despite all the advice i have given her has chosen to date anyone who asks her, mostly because she is desperate for attention from the opposite sex.
now she spends all her time either with him or talking to him. and since she's desprite for the attention she is letting him do things that i have trained her not to let guys get away with and changing herself into someone i know she's not just for him.
i know i'm overprotective of her and it may just seem like misplaced jealousy, and it might be just a little, but i know in the long run all he's going to do is hurt her. i should be happy that she's happy right now but all i can see is her hurt and crying over him down the road and it pains me that she won't listen to me because "it's not happening currently so in her mind it's never going to happen
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i feel like someone who doesn't deserve her is taking my place that i'v worked so hard to keep, as her best friend and protector, the one to make her happy. and now this guy she really doesn't know who isn't the right guy for her( just because he's being nice) is taking my place, she doesn't realize it but it's putting a strain on our friendship. she spends very little time with me now and is too busy talking with him to respond to my messages and what little trust i have is strained thin that she won't make a stupid decision that will ruin her life because she's already putting all her thoughts and personal beliefs aside and changing for him.
haaaaaa long story short, my " a guy will never get in the way of our friendship because we're better than that." - apparently wasn't true. to her a relationship that won't work out apparently is more important than our friendship, and sadly if that's what she really feels than im going to have to leave her on her own because i'v put too much energy already into this friendship and i'm not going to be the one expected to put all the pieces back together only to have to do it again the next time if none is going to listen to me from the start. - i love her too much to watch her get hurt.
sorry, that was long and selfish but i needed to vent :/